Yesterday’s post on control in relationships got a lot of comments from many friends I haven’t met yet, and a wonderful post by Siggy.
Here’s a sample of the first three:Jeremayalovka:
There’s nothing wrong with control when it has to do with leading and leadership. Think: leading a dance.
We all know from the world around us that if someone is in a dominating relationship – they will either
1. leave or
2. live a miserable life
To be fully human, I believe, we must develop and use all our faculties and it is the degree to which we are successful in doing this that makes each of us uniquely what we are.
If you can, please do take some time to read these and all the comments. Each commenter is insightful and thoughtful, and their blogs are worth a daily visit.
This morning Siggy honors my post greatly by mentioning it in his excellent post The Divine Destiny Of Discord. He explores the effect of power on others and on society in general, and the resilience of the human spirit.
Siggy starts by discussing the story of Abraham, Sarah and Hagar:
How is it that Abraham gave into Sarah’s demands after only a mild protest? How is it that Abraham allowed the mother of his firstborn to be subject to much abuse and suffering? God had promised Abraham that his offspring would found great nations. How could Abraham turn a blind eye to the fact that banishing Hagar and Ishmael into the desert was in fact a death sentence? Was this what God expected from His servant?
Siggy goes on
Perhaps one lesson that can be learned here is that Abraham never attempted to assert control or dominion over that which he knew was in God’s purview. Each of his sons were promised great legacies and Abraham trusted enough in God to not interfere, despite what must have been clearly a great conflict within himself. Not to assert control or domination but to trust in God- really trust in Him- takes a kind of maturity, not so easily learned.
Obviously I can not do justice to Siggy’s post. You must go and read every word.
And again, the most rewarding aspect of blogging is to be in the company of such excellent people, all friends I haven’t met yet (and two that I have).