Roiphe quotes MoDo, whose book is titled, Are Men Necessary?
“As a species is it possible that men are ever so last century?”
“Deep down all men want the same thing: a virgin in a gingham dress”,
“being a maid would have enhanced my chances with men”
“if there’s one thing men fear it’s a woman who uses her critical faculties.”
And let’s not forget that other gem,
“men tend to be a bit lazy. They’ll grab the closest donught off the platter.”
Seems to me that someone who really believes statements like that doesn’t really find men likeable. Sexually attractive, maybe, but likeable, no. Roiphe explains,
One imagines that her intelligence, her sharpness, her sarcasm may even have interested these men. Could there possibly be another reason that the attractive, successful Dowd has not settled down? Something that is not in the zeitgeist, or the political climate, but some ineffable quality of her own psychology? It would seem wrong to raise this question about a woman writer, and in fact about any writer, but Dowd uses her experience with men as template for her theories so often, and marshals her failure to marry as evidence so frequently, that she herself raises the question in her reader’s mind.
MoDo reminds me of Muriel in the movie Muriel’s Wedding. Muriel didn’t want to be married, she just wanted to get married.